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Don’t Do It Alone: The Power of Sacred Support

The myth of the “self-made” success story might be the most damaging narrative in modern business culture. It suggests that true achievement comes from solitary effort, that asking for help signals weakness, and that independence equals strength. Trying to duplicate a “solo” success story is a recipe for burnout and frustration. You don’t *have” to build your success alone for it to be valid and rewarding.

This myth is particularly harmful for women navigating significant challenges, creating impossible standards that guarantee burnout. Doing it alone is killing us, slowly AND quickly.

The truth? No meaningful success happens in isolation. Every thriving entrepreneur has robust systems of support—whether visible or behind the scenes. The difference in a sustainable approach is making these support systems intentional, aligned, and yes, sacred.

What Is Sacred Support?

Sacred Support = Intentional Support

This includes people, tools, rituals, and practices that uphold your well-being while you build wealth. Sacred support honors your values, your capacity, and your nervous system.

The term “sacred” isn’t necessarily religious or spiritual (though it can be if that resonates with you). Rather, it signifies that your support systems deserve reverence, intentionality, and protection. Sacred support isn’t an afterthought or a luxury—it’s the essential foundation that makes sustainable success possible.

Why “Sacred” Matters

Traditional business advice often treats support systems as purely practical resources—tools to maximize productivity or extensions of your working capacity. This transactional approach misses the deeper significance of truly aligned support.

Sacred support differs in several key ways:

Alignment with Values: Sacred support systems reflect and reinforce your core values rather than undermining them. They help you create success on your own terms rather than pushing you toward conventional models that don’t serve you.

Honoring of Capacity: Sacred support acknowledges and works with your actual energy patterns rather than trying to override them. It creates space for your humanity rather than treating you as a production machine.

Nervous System Attunement: Sacred support is designed with awareness of what helps your nervous system feel safe and regulated. It reduces activation rather than adding to your stress load.

Reciprocal Nourishment: Sacred support creates mutually beneficial relationships rather than one-sided extraction. It values fair exchange and sustainability for all involved.

By treating your support systems with reverence, you create an energetic exchange that is balanced, restorative, and sustainable.

Types of Sacred Support

A comprehensive support ecosystem includes four essential types of support:

Emotional Support: Therapists, mentors, trusted friends

  • Professional support for processing feelings, challenges, and growth
  • Mentorship that provides perspective and wisdom from those further along the path
  • Friendships that offer understanding, encouragement, and witnessed experience
  • Support groups specific to your circumstances or challenges
  • Coaching relationships focused on your emotional wellbeing alongside goals

Practical Support: VAs, schedulers, automation tools

  • Administrative assistance that handles routine or depleting tasks
  • Technology that simplifies complex processes or eliminates unnecessary steps
  • Service providers who manage specialized aspects of your business
  • Systems that capture and organize information without mental strain
  • Household support that reduces the domestic load alongside business demands

Energetic Support: Bodyworkers, spiritual practices, environments that soothe

  • Physical therapies that address embodied stress or tension
  • Practices that connect you to larger meaning or purpose
  • Spaces designed to support regulation and restoration
  • Nature connection that provides perspective and renewal
  • Creative outlets that allow processing and expression outside of work

Financial Support: Payment plans, income smoothing, wise investments

  • Cash flow strategies that create stability during capacity fluctuations
  • Investment approaches that generate passive support for your goals
  • Financial professionals who provide expertise and perspective
  • Proper compensation structures that honor your true value
  • Emergency funds and safety nets that reduce scarcity stress

Mapping Your Sacred Support Stack

To create a comprehensive support system, it helps to assess what’s missing and what’s strong across three dimensions:

1. Internal Support Systems These are the practices, mindsets, and resources that you cultivate within yourself to create a foundation of self-support.

2. Interpersonal Support Systems These involve the relationships, connections, and human resources that provide different types of support through direct interaction.

3. Infrastructural Support Systems These include the technological, environmental, and operational structures that create efficiency, consistency, and ease.

When these three dimensions are combined with the four types of support, you create a comprehensive “Sacred Stack” support map that illuminates both your strengths and gaps:

By rating your current support in each cell from 0-5, you can identify critical gaps, emerging strengths, and high-impact areas for improvement.

Energetic Boundaries + Business

Many people with challenging circumstances struggle to set boundaries—especially in business. This difficulty often stems from complex factors:

People-Pleasing Patterns: Fear that boundaries will result in rejection or abandonment

Trauma Responses: Hypervigilance that creates excessive responsibility for others’ experiences

Worthiness Wounds: Belief that your value depends on availability or usefulness to others

Income Insecurity: Fear that saying no will result in financial instability

The Aureum Sanctum approach reframes boundaries not as rigid walls or restrictions, but as energetic containers that protect your capacity and clarify expectations. These containers create clarity, predictability, and sustainability—ultimately benefiting both you and those you serve.

Designing Your Sacred Systems

Supportive systems should reduce decision fatigue and increase your sense of spaciousness. Effective systems create reliable processes that continue functioning even during capacity fluctuations, freeing your energy for high-value contributions only you can make.

The difference between standard systems and sacred systems is significant:

Standard Systems focus primarily on efficiency, productivity, and standardization. While potentially useful, they often prioritize output over wellbeing and conformity over individuality.

Sacred Systems honor your unique patterns, protect your energy, and create genuine ease. They’re designed with awareness of your specific needs rather than generic best practices.

If you need support in creating your sacred systems, please reach out to me so we can determine if we should work together.

Your Sacred Circle

Creating (or curating) a sacred circle of collaborators, co-regulators, and community is essential for sustainable success. While systems and tools provide important support, human connection offers unique benefits that cannot be replicated through technology or solo practices.

Your sacred circle provides essential functions that systems alone cannot. I will flesh out this concept further in a future post, but in the meantime, assess your current circle and determine which individuals currently surround you and how these people show up in your life. Ask yourself questions to determine their role in your life. Who energizes you after a conversation? Who do you feel safe asking for help from? Who have you been giving to without replenishment? Where can you seek community or mentorship that aligns with your energy level and vision?

Integrate for Success

Shifting from understanding to embodiment requires gentle but consistent practice. Here are some different practices to begin integrating sacred support into your daily experience:

1. Clear a Drain: Identify and eliminate one person, habit, or task that depletes you

2. Support Swap: Trade support with a friend—30 minutes for each other

3. Sacred Stack Audit: Complete your support map honestly

4. Tech for Support: Automate one thing you’re doing manually

5. Ask for Help: Reach out to a coach, mentor, or trusted peer

6. Boundary Builder: Establish one clear business boundary

The Impact of Sacred Support

When fully implemented, the systems of sacred support you’ve developed will transform your experience of business creation in profound ways:

Energy Amplification: With appropriate support, your available energy is focused on your zone of genius rather than scattered across depleting tasks.

Creative Expansion: Freed from constant logistical demands, your creative capacity naturally expands into new possibilities.

Sustainable Scaling: Your business can grow without proportionally increasing your personal energy expenditure.

Increased Resilience: Multiple support points create stability during inevitable challenges or energy fluctuations.

Deepened Impact: Your unique gifts can reach more people when you’re not handling every aspect of your business alone.

This approach might seem radical in a culture that glorifies self-sufficiency and individual achievement. But what could be more practical than designing support systems that honor both your vision and your humanity?

The path to sustainable success isn’t about doing more alone—it’s about creating the sacred support that allows your gifts to flow without depletion. By embracing the power of intentional, aligned support, you’re not just building a business—you’re creating a revolutionary model of wealth creation that honors the full humanity of entrepreneurs.

What would become possible in your business if you were truly, comprehensively supported? I’d love to hear your thoughts below!

Winning the IRS Employment Game: A Strategic Guide

I recently shared a post regarding the Internal Revenue Service’s “hiring” push that is unlikely to result in any material impact on agency goals and objectives. However, at the end of the post, I mentioned how there would be some terminated or laid-off IRS employees that may be considering returning to the Service for the upcoming filing season, and how these employees could maximize the opportunity regardless of how indeterminate their employment time may be. Here are my recommendations for getting maximum benefit as a re-hired IRS employee:

  • Prior to returning to the office, schedule any doctor and specialist appointments so that your reinstated federal health insurance can cover those visits. For instance, if I was a former IRS employee that intends to be rehired before the filing season begins, I’d start scheduling doctor appointments for February and March 2026. I’d be sure to focus on those specialists that have a 6-9 months wait list, as well as any doctors that I have been unable to visit while I’ve been unemployed. I’d put those appointments on President’s Day if possible (this is a federal holiday that is open for many businesses, including a good number of medical offices). If, for some reason, I am not hired or my insurance is not reinstated within a few days of the appointment, I’d call and reschedule. I’ve lost nothing, and the medical office still has time to offer that space to another patient.
  • Leverage your lunch time and after work hours to complete free Skillsoft training to qualify you for a different job. Since it’s been more than a decade since I worked for IRS, I’m unsure how much access employees have within Skillsoft. However, if you are a rehired employee, confirm the Skillsoft access information in your employee handbook or through intranet pages. See if there is an option to download the Skillsoft app to your personal device, where you can use your agency log-in information to complete training when you’re off the clock. If so, explore the training paths that are most beneficial to your goals and use this re-employment period to complete the training. As you complete courses, make sure you retain copies of your completion records, lest they become unavailable to you in the future. Some programs I’d recommend are the project management and business analysis tracks (successfully completing Skillsoft training in either area is accepted by the Project Management Institute and the International Institute of Business Analysis). However, if you’d like to know of additional Skillsoft training that I recommend, let me know, and I’ll do another post.
  • Research the tuition reimbursement and student loan repayment options available to you. It’s uncertain whether these programs are going to be available when rehired employees return, but if I came back to the agency, this would be one of the first things I’d confirm. Generally, you must have at least one year of employment to qualify, but you’ll have to confirm whether there are additional criteria, such as whether the year of employment must be 12 consecutive months, if you must be a permanent employment (as opposed to seasonal) to qualify, if the benefits are available only to certain job series (positions), etc.,.
  • This is a perfect opportunity to utilize Employee Assistance Program (EAP) resources. Whatever you need that is available through EAP, go ahead and use it. I cannot remember the full extent of the resources available through IRS’s EAP, but these programs usually offer counseling and therapy services, financial and legal advice for personal purposes, and expedited referrals to various specialists. It’s a complimentary service so get as much as you can while you’re there.
  • Prioritize completing internal required and supplemental training and save documentation of it. Outside of Skillsoft, IRS used to maintain its own training materials. I advise you to take advantage of these training programs if still available and, should you find yourself laid off again, you’ll be able to prove that you’ve completed tax-relevant and other specialized training programs. These can be great if you enjoy working in finance or tax, and want to distinguish yourself from other applicants for other positions.
  • If at all possible, invest heavily in your Thrift Savings Program account. Socking away some retirement funds is always a good idea, and the effect of compound interest can work to your advantage. The sooner you put funds in, the longer you can benefit from the time advantage. So if you can put in a little (or a lot!), do it. Your future financial security will thank you for whatever you do now.

If you can think of additional strategies for rehired IRS employees, please leave those suggestions in the comments, so that others can benefit. Also, if there are any points that need correction, please let me know and I’ll be sure to update. Let’s help each other to make the best of this situation!

Entering My Opulent Era

This is slightly related to the subject of this blog so I figured I’d share.

Today is my birthday. I’m writing this ahead of time, since I’ll be overseas and practicing what I preach.

I’ve mentioned before how I’ve grown weary of the practical (boring) advice that is often offered by financial gurus. I am DONE with promoting austerity as the path to wealth, and I will no longer deny myself pleasure that adds depth and color to my existence. I believe it is possible to live luxuriously while also being wise with money. In fact, I’d argue that (for me) the only reason to be responsible with money is to enjoy the luxuries that money can buy. I may forgo ordering takeout to save up for a pair of Ralph and Russo shoes, or I may decide to stay home and read a book instead of blowing my quarterly massage budget on a night out with friends. Whatever the case is, I may opt for the responsible, “boring” choice, but only if it puts me in line for the luxury I really desire.

I have no interest in denying myself every pleasure, just so I can see a certain amount in my bank account. Yes, I believe in saving for rainy days and old age, but I also believe in leaving room for fun NOW! I don’t want a life where I’m not having fun: I want a life that is juicy, exquisite, and delightful from beginning to the very end. That is why I’m declaring this my Opulent Era. I require opulence in everything I do: my meals, my home, my hobbies, my travel, everything. If opulence means sacrificing the less interesting things, I’m happy to do it. I’m no longer interested in living a dull life JUST so I can have more money in an account. I want to LIVE (still responsibly, but not miserly!)

I’m committing to incorporating more opulence into my daily life. If that interests you, then stay tuned, because I’ll be sharing more of those opulent experiences here. I look forward to taking you all on this opulent adventure with me!

Posing at the Edinburgh Airport

Know Yourself, Grow Your Wealth: Personality as Your Secret Weapon

In the world of financial advice, we’re bombarded with one-size-fits-all strategies: wake up at 5 AM, use this productivity system, invest here, cut these things out. But what if the secret to sustainable success isn’t forcing yourself into someone else’s mold but deeply understanding and leveraging your unique psychological design?

This approach – using personality frameworks as the foundation for business strategy – can transform how you create, market, and deliver your offerings. Instead of fighting against your natural tendencies, you can build a business that works with your innate patterns.

Why Traditional Business Advice Fails So Many Women

Most business strategies assume we all process information, make decisions, and engage with the world in roughly the same way. This assumption creates a painful gap between expectations and reality, particularly for women juggling multiple roles or navigating health challenges.

When we try to force ourselves into business models that contradict our natural cognitive and emotional patterns, we experience:

  • Energy depletion from constantly overriding our instincts
  • Decision fatigue from operating against our natural thinking style
  • Motivation dips when we can’t connect with our core drives
  • Authenticity struggles that customers subtly sense and distrust
  • Self-doubt when we can’t maintain prescribed business approaches

But what if your personality isn’t an obstacle to overcome but your greatest business asset?

The Power of Personality-Aligned Business

By understanding your cognitive style (Myers-Briggs) and motivational core (Enneagram), you can design a business that naturally leverages your strengths while supporting your growth edges. These are two of the assessments that I recommend when working with clients to create an Archetype Analysis and Alignment. These are a great starting point for creating a personality-aligned business. The Myers-Briggs and Enneagram assessments create a foundation for sustainable success without the exhaustion of constant adaptation.

Let’s explore how these two complementary frameworks illuminate different aspects of your business temperament:

Myers-Briggs: Your Cognitive Blueprint

The Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI) reveals how you naturally perceive information and make decisions – crucial processes in any business. Understanding your type illuminates which business activities will energize you, which will deplete you, and how to structure your workday for optimal energy management.

How MBTI Dimensions Impact Your Business Approach:

Extraversion (E) vs. Introversion (I): This dimension reflects where you primarily derive your energy—from the external world of people and activities (Extraversion) or from your internal world of ideas and reflections (Introversion).

  • Extraverted entrepreneurs may thrive with collaborative models, visible leadership, and interactive service delivery
  • Introverted entrepreneurs often excel with behind-the-scenes expertise, one-to-one client work, or systems that minimize constant social demands

Sensing (S) vs. Intuition (N): This dimension describes how you naturally gather and process information—through concrete, tangible details (Sensing) or through patterns, possibilities, and conceptual connections (Intuition).

  • Sensing business owners typically prefer concrete, practical offerings with clear deliverables and tangible results
  • Intuitive business owners may gravitate toward innovation, conceptual frameworks, and transformational outcomes

Thinking (T) vs. Feeling (F): This dimension reflects your decision-making approach—through objective analysis and logical principles (Thinking) or through consideration of personal and communal values (Feeling).

  • Thinking-oriented businesses often emphasize objective quality, logical systems, and clear principles
  • Feeling-oriented businesses frequently focus on client relationships, personalized experiences, and value-aligned impact

Judging (J) vs. Perceiving (P): This dimension indicates your preference for structure and closure (Judging) versus flexibility and openness (Perceiving) in how you organize your external world.

  • Judging entrepreneurs tend to create structured business models with clear processes and predictable delivery
  • Perceiving entrepreneurs often develop adaptable, responsive business approaches that shift with emerging opportunities

Enneagram: Your Motivational Core

While MBTI illuminates how your mind works, the Enneagram reveals why you do what you do—the core motivations and fears that drive your behavior, especially during times of stress or security. This framework provides invaluable insight into what truly drives you in business and where you might sabotage your own success.

How Your Enneagram Type Influences Your Business:

Type 1: The Perfectionist/Reformer

  • Business Strengths: Strong ethical foundations, attention to quality, systematic improvement
  • Rest Challenges: Perfectionism, difficulty delegating, constant self-criticism
  • Aligned Business Model: Standards-based offerings with clear quality markers and improvement metrics

Type 2: The Helper/Giver

  • Business Strengths: Intuitive understanding of client needs, relationship cultivation, supportive approach
  • Rest Challenges: Overextending, difficulty charging appropriately, putting others’ needs first
  • Aligned Business Model: Relational offerings with clear boundaries and value-based pricing

Type 3: The Achiever/Performer

  • Business Strengths: Efficiency, results orientation, strong branding, adaptability to market
  • Rest Challenges: Workaholism, identity fusion with business success, image management
  • Aligned Business Model: Achievement-focused offerings with clear outcomes and recognition components

Type 4: The Individualist/Romantic

  • Business Strengths: Unique vision, emotional depth, authentic expression, creative approaches
  • Rest Challenges: Mood-dependent productivity, comparison, waiting for inspiration
  • Aligned Business Model: Distinctive, meaning-focused offerings with creative components and personal expression

Type 5: The Investigator/Observer

  • Business Strengths: Deep expertise, innovative solutions, well-researched approaches
  • Rest Challenges: Overpreparation, difficulty with visibility, energy protection to the point of isolation
  • Aligned Business Model: Knowledge-based offerings that leverage expertise while protecting energy

Type 6: The Loyalist/Questioner

  • Business Strengths: Thoroughness, contingency planning, community building, problem anticipation
  • Rest Challenges: Anxiety-driven overwork, overanalysis, worst-case scenario focus
  • Aligned Business Model: Security-enhancing offerings with transparent processes and community components

Type 7: The Enthusiast/Epicure

  • Business Strengths: Creative ideation, enthusiasm, multi-faceted offerings, marketing flair
  • Rest Challenges: Starting without finishing, scattered focus, difficulty with routine maintenance
  • Aligned Business Model: Variety-incorporating offerings with novelty elements and freedom-enhancing components

Type 8: The Challenger/Protector

  • Business Strengths: Bold vision, decisive leadership, barrier breaking, straight-forward approach
  • Rest Challenges: Pushing beyond capacity, resistance to vulnerability, difficulty asking for help
  • Aligned Business Model: Impact-focused offerings with clear authority positioning and protection elements

Type 9: The Peacemaker/Mediator

  • Business Strengths: Inclusive approach, conflict resolution, seeing all perspectives, creating harmony
  • Rest Challenges: Self-forgetting, indecision, merging with others’ priorities, numbing out
  • Aligned Business Model: Integration-focused offerings with consensus-building elements and gentle guidance

Your Unique Combination: The Key to Aligned Success

When you integrate insights from both MBTI and Enneagram, you develop a comprehensive understanding of your business temperament—how your mind works and what motivates your heart. This unique combination creates your personal “energy blueprint.”

For example:

INFJ + Type 4:

  • Natural Strengths: Deep insight into others’ emotions and needs; ability to create meaningful transformational experiences
  • Rest Needs: Regular alone time for processing; protection from emotional overwhelm; creative expression without pressure
  • Business Alignment: One-to-one transformational work; content creation with depth and meaning; behind-the-scenes expertise

ENTJ + Type 8:

  • Natural Strengths: Strategic vision; decisive leadership; ability to create efficient systems
  • Rest Needs: Physical activity to release intensity; safe spaces for vulnerability; protected time free from control
  • Business Alignment: High-level strategy; leadership programs; bold initiatives with measurable impact

INTP + Type 5:

  • This is my MBIT & Enneagram!
  • Natural Strengths: Leveraging deep expertise to create knowledge-based offerings, innovative solutions, well-researched approaches
  • Rest Needs: Regular alone time, manageable levels of visibility and low-pressure expression
  • Business Alignment: One-to-one transformational work; content creation with depth and meaning; innovate adaptive and responsive business approaches

Transforming Business Through Self-Knowledge

Understanding your personality-based patterns allows you to:

  1. Design offerings that leverage your natural gifts rather than depleting your energy
  2. Structure your schedule around your inherent energy flow rather than fighting against it
  3. Market authentically by communicating in ways that reflect your natural style
  4. Set appropriate prices that honor your unique value contribution
  5. Create systems that support rather than override your patterns
  6. Establish boundaries that protect your specific energy vulnerabilities
  7. Identify ideal clients who appreciate your authentic approach

The Integration Challenge

Understanding these frameworks intellectually isn’t enough—integration requires intentional practice. Try one – or all! – of these approaches to begin aligning your business with your personality:

To start, one of these practices to implement for one week:

  1. One Task, One Type: Align your most important daily task with your MBTI cognitive strength.
  2. Type-Led Wind-Down: Create a nighttime routine based on your Enneagram rest need.
  3. No-Type Bypassing: Avoid behaviors that bypass your true needs (e.g., a Type 2 people-pleasing out of guilt).
  4. Energy Audit: Track when you felt most aligned vs. misaligned with your natural flow.
  5. Design Your Ideal Workday: Based on MBTI + Enneagram, sketch your ideal rhythm.

After the week, reflect: How did honoring your type(s) shift your energy or outcomes? What felt most liberating about working with, rather than against, your natural patterns?

Liberation Through Self-Knowledge

Understanding your unique personality patterns isn’t about limiting yourself—it’s about liberating yourself from the exhaustion of constant adaptation. It’s about recognizing that your success path looks different from someone with a different type—and that’s not just okay, it’s essential for your sustainable success.

Your personality patterns aren’t flaws to overcome but natural expressions of your unique design. When you build a business that honors these patterns rather than fighting against them, you create from a place of authentic power rather than exhausting compensation.

If you need more assistance with integrating your MBTI and your Enneagram, I can help you with that. What would become possible in your business if you fully embraced your unique psychological design?

Why Your Business is a Temple: The Sacred Systems that Scale Elegantly

The deeper truth of what you’re building

Most people think of their business as a machine: something to be optimized, automated, squeezed for efficiency and profit margins. They don’t think of their business as anything outside of a mechanism to accomplish a financial goal.

In the Sanctum, we see it differently.

Your business is a temple. It’s where your deepest gifts meet the world. It’s also where your ancestors’ sacrifices find new form. Their tears, their strides, their efforts – all of these energetic investments culminate into something new and powerful in your temple.

Your business is where your future lineage will one day trace their security and opportunity back to: all of the choices you’re making right now are part of your dazzling origin story.

This is why your systems — the structures that hold your offers, your money, your client relationships — must be more than transactional.

They must be sacred.

The Power of Spiritual & Strategic Infrastructure

True wealth isn’t just about how much money flows through your accounts. Money is just an indicator – a mirror – of previous decisions. However, true wealth is about how your business holds that money, circulates it, protects it, and grows it — without fracturing your nervous system in the process.

Here’s how we approach it in the Aureum Sanctum:

Systems that free time

Your time is your most precious non-renewable resource.

A sacred business honors it by building systems that operate gracefully even when you step away.

Seamless onboarding flows? These ensure that each new client feels cherished and initiated, without you scrambling behind the scenes. Automated payment structures? These trigger beautiful confirmations, not clunky invoices. Evergreen offers or passive products? These allow you to make money while you rest, travel, or simply luxuriate in your life.

Your business doesn’t require micromanagement. Trust the systems that you put in place.

Systems that regulate wealth

The goal is wealth without structure leaks.

Just like water that seeps through cracked jars, or the harvest that rots in the field, a business without proper storage in place will have spoilage and spillage.

Sacred financial systems are like consecrated vessels: Trusts that hold assets beyond your lifetime. Thoughtful tax architectures that transform liabilities into legacies. Elegant dashboards that show you your numbers at a glance, so you steward them with calm clarity.

When your money knows exactly where to go, it multiplies with grace — not chaos.

Systems that honor your nervous system

What good is scaling if your body is in a perpetual state of contraction?

Systems that support your calm can look like:

Calendars that include Sabbath days and silk afternoons — not just back-to-back calls. Automated reminders that replace mental clutter. Ritualized CEO days where you review metrics over tea and candles, so your wealth is tracked in a way that soothes your soul, not spikes your cortisol.

The right systems don’t just make you efficient: they make you feel profoundly safe.

Your temple deserves more than duct tape

Too many entrepreneurs slap together duct-tape solutions and wonder why their empire feels shaky. Temporary solutions rarely generate permanent positive results.

Your business deserves the same reverence you’d give to constructing a cathedral:

Solid foundations, intricate artistry, and space for spirit to move through.

So yes, let’s build the automations and hire the right team.

Let’s set up smart tax entities and invest in beauty-infused client portals.

Let’s do it not just for profit, but as an act of profound devotion to your future — and everyone who will walk these halls after you.

Create Your Business Temple

If you’re ready to treat your business as a temple that blesses you as much as it blesses the world — consider having a conversation with me. My door is open, and I’m excited to serve you as you create the business of your wildest dreams.

Scaling should feel sacred. Your business should feel like a beautiful sanctuary. Your nervous system deserves to thrive right alongside your bank accounts. Let’s build your beautiful vision – together.

Luxury as Legacy: Reframing Wealth Beyond Status Symbols

 Redefining what luxury truly means

Luxury has become one of those diluted words — tossed casually over images of handbags, yachts, and champagne flutes.

It’s mostly showing up as a marketing tactic, or a status chase.

And while there’s nothing wrong with savoring fine objects (the Aureum Sanctum itself revels in silk and satin, rich mahogany wood, delicate ceramics and bespoke fragrances), true luxury isn’t just about outward symbols.

True luxury is about spaciousness, sovereignty, and the security of knowing your lineage is protected long after you’re gone.

It’s the soft exhale that comes when your life is structured beautifully enough to allow you to slow down, because hustling isn’t luxurious.

It’s the profound calm in your nervous system when you know your family will be cared for — whether through trusts, investments, or an elegantly designed business that endures.

Luxury as Spaciousness

Imagine waking up on a Tuesday and deciding to wander around a sun-dappled museum instead of checking Slack.

Imagine writing poetry at 2 PM because your automated wealth systems hum in the background.

Luxury is the spaciousness to honor your natural rhythms.

To create, rest, and simply be.

In the Sanctum, we see time freedom as the ultimate opulence.

Because what’s the point of more money if your days still belong to someone else?

Luxury as Sovereignty

Most people conflate luxury with lavish consumption.

But for the feminine CEO, luxury is about self-directed power — the capacity to make decisions without fear or dependence.

It’s having the clarity to say yes or no to opportunities from a place of full agency.

It’s setting prices, scaling systems, and structuring taxes proactively — because you understand the intricate laws and patterns that uphold your wealth.

When your finances are architected with elegance, your business becomes an extension of your sovereignty.

It’s a modern throne, designed to honor your intuition, your body, and your genius.

Luxury as Legacy

Perhaps the most overlooked facet of luxury is this:

Luxury is ensuring your family’s security doesn’t end with your lifetime.

It’s not just the trust fund or the insurance policy (though those matter).

It’s the intentional shaping of your story so it becomes the fertile soil your descendants grow from.

It’s the legal structures that protect your heirs from avoidable tax erosion.

It’s the investments that yield fruit decades from now.

It’s the intellectual property — the books, the frameworks, the brand — that your children or protégés inherit.

Luxury is not ephemeral when approached this way.

It becomes a quiet empire that lives on in every opportunity your lineage experiences because of what you built.

The New Model of Luxury

So no, we don’t dismiss the aesthetic pleasures.

Silk robes, heirloom-quality jewelry, and private dinners in candlelit courtyards are delicious expressions of wealth.

But in the Sanctum, we frame them as byproducts — not the root.

The root is spaciousness, sovereignty, and legacy.

Because luxury isn’t ultimately about showing the world how much you have.

It’s about constructing a life (and a financial ecosystem) so artful and secure that your soul feels deeply nourished — and your lineage is quietly, powerfully blessed.

Are You Ready to Embrace Luxury?

If you’re ready to explore luxury not as hollow flex, but as a devotion to your own spaciousness and your family’s future, my door is open.

Because when wealth is approached as ritual, every decision becomes an act of love — for yourself, for those who came before, and for everyone who will come after

A New Chapter Begins – The First Completed Archetype Analysis

There’s a quiet kind of magic that happens when vision meets devotion. I felt it recently—like a subtle shift in the atmosphere—when I completed the first Aureum Sanctum Archetype Analysis.

What began as an idea rooted in ritual, refinement, and restoration has now been fully birthed into form. This wasn’t just a client deliverable. It was a soul-mapping session. A mirror held up to the sacred. A moment where someone said, yes—I want to understand who I truly am beneath the noise.

And I had the honor of guiding them home to themselves.

This Is Not Just a Personality Quiz. It’s a Spiritual Unveiling.

In my approach, I don’t label—I illuminate. I also don’t project: I let the information you provide me serve as a guide to a deeper, more meaningful expression of YOU.

The Archetype Analysis is a sacred synthesis of personal essence, aesthetic intelligence, behavioral patterns, and energetic resonance. It’s designed for women who are ready to live, lead, and earn in alignment with who they truly are—not who they were trained to be.

This first report wasn’t simply about typing someone as “The Devoted Noble.” It was about listening for the whisper of her core values. Observing her elegance and restraint. Tracing her relationship to wealth, rest, power, and legacy. And naming it all, reverently.

What Was Included

The final report was a rich tapestry of insights, woven with care:

  • Her Archetype Essence: the emotional and energetic core she radiates
  • Her Personal Emblems: symbols and motifs that anchor her power
  • What Makes Her Magnetic: how her presence naturally attracts
  • Her Aligned Wardrobe & Aesthetic: style as spiritual expression
  • A Prosperity Color Palette: tones that amplify her abundance
  • Signature Scents: perfume oils that enhance her frequency
  • Archetype-informed Wealth Building Strategies
  • A personalized Daily Ritual Template to leave her grounded, restored, and radiant

What I Learned

This process taught me what I already suspected:

Women are longing to be seen, to be understood, and to be guided back to their truth. They are tired of contorting themselves into inauthentic expressions: they are ready to be in their full power and magic. They are no longer pretending that they’re okay with stuffing themselves into the expectations of others. Women are ready to be REAL.

Completing this analysis confirmed that this work matters—not only because it’s beautiful, but because it’s transformational. This process showed me and my client who she can be and the experiences that await her when she steps into this full, embodied version of herself.

Where We Go From Here

One Archetype Analysis has blossomed. And more are already being seeded.

I am so excited to continue offering this as part of the Aureum Sanctum experience. For those who are ready to unlock their unique frequency and craft a life of depth, grace, and sovereign wealth—this is your invitation.

We are not building empires the old way.

We are crafting legacies of resonance.

And it all begins with remembering who you are.

Want to be one of the next few clients to receive an Archetype Analysis report?

See the Archetype Analysis page to begin your journey.

Your essence is sacred. Let’s honor it, together.

What I’ve Learned From Ten Years As An Enrolled Agent

This year, I celebrate TEN years of being an enrolled agent! I don’t discuss my previous IRS career often, so this seemed like a good time to talk to you all about it, as well as to reflect on what I learned over this past decade.

I started working at the IRS in the call site, then I became a correspondence auditor on a whim (I put in one application in Washington, DC, and I got selected for the role). I eventually got promoted to an international tax specialist role, where I completed hundreds of audits of foreign nationals living in DC, as well as audits of US citizens living abroad. I loved the work, but I disliked many of the managers (this was most pronounced at the beginning of my IRS career as well as the end of my time there: the in-between years were better). The managerial abuse was insane, and I knew I needed to leave for my mental health. Once I started my family, I left IRS and applied for my enrolled agent license (I had the requisite experience to apply without having to take the exam).

I was awarded my license in 2013, and I’ve been in good standing ever since. Here is some of what I’ve learned from being an enrolled agent.

  • Maintaining my license is pretty straightforward and fairly inexpensive. I complete the majority of my 24 hours of continuing professional education (CPE) on CPA Academy, one of the few websites that offers a lot of free classes that count toward CPE. There was a brief, shining moment during the Trump administration, when renewing my tax preparer ID number was free (there is no law that requires IRS to charge fees for these numbers), but that ended with Biden’s administration. There is a $30 annual fee to renew the tax preparer ID number, and I also pay an enrolled agent fee once every three years ($140). So, my average annual costs for maintaining my license is around $80.
  • Tax preparation is my least favorite part of taxes. I liked it when I initially began as an enrolled agent, but now I don’t do it at all. I prefer resolving tax discrepancies, or providing tax advice. Being an enrolled agent helped me learn what I really enjoyed about taxes, and which parts are better left to others. I learned that there are some people that love preparing taxes, and I don’t cross over into their territory.
  • Most tax work is underpaid, so it’s a good idea to work for yourself. You may not get the volume of customers you’d expect by working through a major tax company, but you earn more. With my expertise, I got an offer for a part-time senior tax consultant earning (drumroll please) $25 per hour. Not bad for part time work, and the ease of being an employee (no 1099-MISC payments, so less bookkeeping work for me). But, as someone that doesn’t need immediate income, AND as someone that has a client roster that pays $30+ for a half hour of my time, it wasn’t worth it.
  • Being an enrolled agent is a fiduciary-level role. You have to put your client’s interests first, and you are bound to the same ethical standards as most financial advisor/consultant roles. Just because you haven’t completed any of FINRA’s exams doesn’t mean that you’re able to bypass those standards. You are required to operate ethically at all times (both when working with clients and during your off-time).
  • You’re one of the few roles that can adequately represent people at the US Tax Court. I didn’t learn about this until I had been an EA for a while, but US Tax Court allows non-attorneys to represent clients in court, so long as the non-attorney has passed the Tax Court’s admission process. Being an EA offers a lot of credibility to your application to represent people in tax court. If you’ve always wanted to know what it’s like to work in a legal capacity, being an EA can position you to have this experience.
  • This job is what you make of it. You can do so much with this license: tax preparation, tax consulting, tax resolution, digital product creation, webinars & other instructional sessions, keynote speaking, tax research, and so much more. I have seen people pivot their EA license into all sorts of fascinating careers that go beyond the typical things we think of when talking about tax licenses. Your career is limited to your imagination.

Those are just some of the things I’ve learned from 10 years as an enrolled agent. So tell me: are you familiar with EAs? Would you be interested in getting this license? Let me know your thoughts below!

Harvesting Financial Wisdom: What Autumn Teaches Us

The autumn season is full of wonder and magic. Just think of how our senses are engaged during this time of year: the air gets cooler, the leaves change color, apples and pumpkins are at peak tastiness, and the environment is infused with the cozy energy that complements and prepares us for the chillier months to come.

As a financial consultant and part-time herbalist, I am struck by how much nature reflects her wisdom to us at all times. As I always say, how you do anything is how you do everything, and nature is no exception to this. We are surrounded by clues and hints from the natural world at all times. And in this season, there are many lessons to be learned that can be applied to many areas of our life, including our finances. Some of the autumn-themed financial lessons I’ve observed are:

  • Balance is key to everything. The first day of fall is an equinox, meaning that there is the exactly same amount of daytime and nighttime. It’s this perfect balance between light and dark that I like to keep in mind when looking at financial strategies. Yes, make sure to save, but also make sure to spend. Invest in boring things that grow slowly and steadily (like bonds) but also invest in things that excite you (like plucky startups or fine art, if that’s your thing). Do work that you enjoy, but also remember to make time for restoration and rejuvenation. Duality in all things is required to create a satisfying, balanced lifestyle.
  • Use your energy wisely. There are some plants that thrive in the colder months, and that’s because they don’t waste their energy during unfavorable seasons: you won’t see those plants struggling to adapt and grow in the spring or summer. Likewise, we need to use our energy wisely. Instead of trying to bloom in every season, we should look for the time that is most favorable, and do our best work then. Consider what times of day, month, and year we are most energized (this is particularly relevant to women, who have to consider our monthly cycles and energy levels) and plan around that. When it comes to money, use your energy to develop income sources that won’t constantly deplete your energetic reserves: you want to focus on developing some sources that are passive, and will allow you to use less energy during the times when it’s required. Wisely using your energy is key to living comfortably throughout your years.
  • Slowing down doesn’t mean ceasing to exist. The plants that come back to life every spring appear to be dead during the winter. At first glance, these plants appear to be a hopeless case, going from lush green to dry, brown and brittle in the fall. But then, when the necessary amount of time has passed, you’ll see little green shoots and proof of life on these very plants that looked like they’d expired. Likewise, you may find that you’ve been going hard – too hard – to create the things that you dream of. This is easy to do, especially in your wealth-building stages: it can be exhausting to take in a lot of information, experiment with different strategies, go back to the drawing board to modify your approach, then start all over (psst – You don’t have to do this alone). . . After doing all of that, you may one day feel like you can’t take another step. Or, maybe you feel yourself declining, and, before you collapse from the stress, you realize you have to change the pace to preserve yourself. If you ever get to these points . . . Slow down. You can come back stronger and more resilient if you give yourself a chance to rest and regroup. Opportunities are infinite, and you’re better able to take advantage if you aren’t depleted and at your wits end. SLOW DOWN, and get back to your plan when you’re feeling better.
  • Embrace change. In autumn, the air goes from warm to cool, bringing in the crispness we’ve come to expect from the season. The leaves go from green to red, orange, yellow and finally brown, and the days have less and less sunshine. Nature shows us that the only constant is change, and embracing it is good for us. Instead of arguing against the cooler air, we wear clothing that makes us feel more comfortable. We enjoy the sunshine while we have it, and appreciate the variety of color the leaves offer us. If we’re wise, we embrace the change and adapt accordingly. When you see that your financial plan has gaps or doesn’t meet your needs, you may need to make some changes. There is wisdom in making adjustments with confidence and calm, instead of agonizing over the “could haves/should haves”. Making changes when appropriate and with an accepting spirit can mean the difference between the life of your dreams and lingering in “someday land”.
  • Release anything that isn’t serving you. Speaking of leaves . . . The gorgeous color changes we enjoy in the autumn reminds us that release can be beautiful. Letting go of leaves allows trees to conserve precious energy, with the promise that these leaves will return when the resources and energy are more plentiful. When we release the things that are draining us, or that aren’t serving us, we can use the energy we preserve on things that will support and nurture us. When it comes to money, I checked my investments regularly to make sure that the accounts are growing at a reasonable rate. Anything that is performing poorly over a period of time is released, and I’ll only reconsider when performance improves. Having a healthy level of detachment (which is different from denial or delusion) from our finances allows us to make rational decisions that serve us now and in the future.

Do you have any lessons that you’ve learned from the changing of the seasons? I’d love to hear more about it below!

Is Your Telework Arrangement Coming To An End?

I’ve followed a few articles discussing the future of telework/remote work, and I am not surprised that many businesses no longer want their employees working from the comfort of their homes. Assuming that the tasks for a job are primarily digital, it doesn’t seem like there would be a rush to return employees to the office. However, many that have enjoyed working from home are now being told that their remote work agreements are revoked and they are required to do hybrid or fully in-person work.

This can be frustrating for employees, especially if you have adjusted your lifestyle to a 0 minute commute. It’s also frustrating for employees that saw an increase in productivity and a decrease in their stress levels (shout out to the introverted workforce!) So when a job tells you that you need to start coming back to the office, what should you do?

First, ask yourself if you want this job, or if you’re there because you need it. If you want the job (you love pretty much everything about it except the return to the office), then it may be worthwhile to wait it out and see, at a later date, if you can strike an agreement to restore some of your telework days. Over time, you may be able to increase your telework back to 100% based on exceptional performance. Waiting a while, then trying to slowly integrate remote work back into your routine, could work, especially if you demonstrate upfront that you are willing to follow the new rules (for a time).

But, if you’re only at that job because you need it (i.e., the only reason why you’re there is because they pay the amount you desire, or you’ve stayed there has been because you can do the work from home) it may be time to come up with some alternate plans (I’d actually argue that you should come up with alternate plans even before a job you dislike changes their remote work policies, but I digress). You have less incentive to negotiate with a job that you fundamentally dislike, so there’s no need to prolong the inevitable: plan your exit as soon as you get the “return to office” news.

As soon as your job announces that they may want to start bringing people back to the office, start applying for other jobs. FlexJobs is one of the biggest job posting sites that specializes in remote work. Go ahead and build your profile and start applying to new roles, so you will have options before the company decides what they want to do. AI tools are fantastic for upgrading your resume and quickly creating beautiful cover letters (if the application should require them). Try ChatGPT or Claude to get a rewritten resume that gets results. Set a goal for a certain number of applications per day (I personally aimed for 5 a day back when I was looking for jobs, but if you really need to leave, aim for more).

ExodUS Summit will have a workshop taught by Libryia Jones, a remote work expert and advocate that specializes in getting women into telework roles that allows them to live the lives of their dreams. Check out Libryia’s website, Quit Commuting, for more information on how she can get you a remote job. As someone that has attended the ExodUS Summit in previous years, I can confirm that Libryia gets results for clients, and investing with her is well worth it.

Another name that you should check out is Sheila K. Brown, whose “Find a Dope Remote Job” course was my introduction to the strategies needed for fully remote work. I purchased the course several years ago and found that it was full of valuable information that can help you transition to a full-time telework position. Sheila is a wealth of knowledge, and she has many ideas for helping anyone that wants to make money remotely.

While you apply to jobs or consult with a telework expert, I also advocate that you continue building your alternative streams of income and exploring options beyond the 9 to 5. Work is great for making sure that your immediate needs are covered, and that you have some capital for your bigger dreams. But if you want considerably more freedom, it will require you to release yourself from standard employment and earn your income through other means. If you want to explore some options with this, use the form on my Contact page, and just say “options” in the description box. Also, I encourage you to check out ExodUS Summit this year, as the theme is Location Freedom, Financial Freedom and Time Freedom.

No matter what you decide, please know that your company’s decision to return employees to the office doesn’t mean that your remote work days are over. You can find work that is lucrative and location independent, so long as you know where to look, and seek help from others that can help you with your search.

Do you have any other tips for finding remote work or handling the change from fully remote to hybrid work? I’d love to hear all about it!